On Monday, I discussed a few different ideas for bridesmaid gifts, providing some pointers and even making a few suggestions. Today, it’s time for the flip side of the wedding party. What kind of groomsmen gifts should the groom give to his chosen few? If you were thinking tie clips or hip flasks would be fine, read on—I’ve got some knowledge to drop on you.
Groomsmen Gifts: Practical and Tactical
When choosing groomsmen gifts, note that the word “decorative” has no business here. Generally, men want things that are useful. Particularly, they want things they can use often. But gifts like these can still be thoughtful, and they can still be personal. So let’s toss around some ideas and see what might work best for your wedding party.
Groomsmen Gift Idea #1: The Personal And Practical Approach
Monogrammed keepsakes aren’t just for bridesmaids; they will work for groomsmen gifts as well. The difference, however, is in the keepsake. As long as it’s functional, it will be appreciated. For instance, a knife or a multi-tool engraved with the groomsman’s initials is a fantastic gift idea for groomsmen. A pocket watch could work well also, though it does straddle the functional-versus-decorative line; proceed with caution on that one. Also, don’t be afraid to tap into personal interests. Does he appreciate a good vintage? Why not give a bottle of wine with a personalized wine opener multi-tool? Is he an avid griller? How about a barbecue tool set with his initials engraved on the case? Or maybe the same concept with a set of darts instead? You know your friends and family, and you know what they like. Use that knowledge.
Groomsmen Gift Idea #2: Go Old-Fashioned With A Shaving Kit
Most men have some sort of shaving kit. But what most men don’t have is a nice shaving kit. Go old-fashioned on this one: nice leather bag (possibly embossed with his initials), shaving brush, monogrammed towels, foam, aftershave lotion and, depending on skill level, either a traditional multi-blade safety razor or a classic straight razor. Most men will appreciate the effort on this one; it’s one of those things we would all like to have but will rarely buy for ourselves.
Groomsmen Gift Idea #3: None—Just Go Out With The Guys
It’s entirely possible that one of the best groomsmen gifts is just a little extra bonding time. Grooms-to-be, plan a memorable outing for you and your groomsmen as a way to say thanks for their support and their help with the big day. I’m not talking about the bachelor party, of course; that was all about you. This adventure is about them. The options are limitless here; you could plan a weekend long camping trip, or rent a cabin in a picturesque setting for a few days. Even something as simple as putt-putt and go-carts can be a riot with the right group of people. Just make sure the focus is on the guys who will be standing at your side when the wedding day comes.
As For These Gift Ideas, Well . . . Just Don’t
For every group of best friends opening thoughtful, personal gifts from the man of the hour, there’s a handful of guys somewhere opening tiny gift boxes of nearly identical monogrammed cuff links. The latter group will smile and thank their mutual friend, and it might even be convincing; but I know they’re not as appreciative as that first group. And I’m pretty sure you know that, too. These are the types of gifts to avoid—gifts that are really not practical in any way whatsoever, or gifts that are so common that it’s entirely possible you’ll be duplicating something they’ve been given already . . . probably from another wedding.
Remember, as with any gift, it’s the thought that counts; if it didn’t take any thought, it’s not the right gift.
As mentioned earlier, avoid the cuff links; the likelihood that they will ever be used outside your wedding isn’t even remote; it’s practically nonexistent. The same can be said for another popular groomsmen gift: personalized money clips. They require very little thought, very little time, and very little effort; in the end, they will have very little meaning, too. Barware like a stein or a flask should also be avoided, if only because they are such common gifts that it’s likely your groomsmen already have one (or more) stashed away in their attic somewhere. Remember, as with any gift, it’s the thought that counts; if it didn’t take any thought, it’s not the right gift.
When it comes to your groomsmen gifts, just follow two simple rules: 1.) Make it practical, and 2.) Make it personal. If you keep both of those in mind, you really can’t go wrong.